Somewhere along the way, I started believing the lie that survival means success.
That breathing means winning.
That if I stopped crying, stopped falling apart, stopped repeating old patterns I’d be okay.
My life was full of betrayal, sexual assault, abuse, abandonment, addiction, and grief, and with that came whole lot of anxiety and depression.
My survival rate? 100%
But surviving isn’t thriving.
I was created to thrive.
I was made for joy, love, peace.
For an abundant, radiant life in Jesus.
And though I’ve experienced a lot of trauma, I wasn’t made to carry it.
I wasn’t made for shame, silence, or for carrying everyone else’s pain while ignoring my own.
I wasn’t made for pretending everything is okay while quietly unraveling.
I used to think healing was about getting “back to normal.”
But I’ve learned that healing is really about coming home to the woman He created me to be before the world scratched through my goodness in red ink and tried to unmake me.
And maybe, like me, you’ve been through abuse, betrayal, addiction, codependency, or deep identity loss.
Maybe you’ve heard the enemy whisper that your story disqualifies you.
But hear me, sister:
God wasn’t just a creator in Genesis. He’s a creator now. And since He created you in in His image, He created you to create.
Ask Him to help you rewrite your story.
In the story of my life,
He adds sweet notes in the margins,
He scratches out abused and writes in healed,
He crosses out angry and writes in lovely.
You, sweet friend, are currently, deliberately, tenderly being remade.
God never wastes a wound, and He never asks us to carry what Jesus already died to free us from.
And here’s what He’s been speaking into me lately.
“Don’t revisit, review, or replay what I’ve already rewritten.
Don’t rework, reshape, or reframe what I’ve already remade.”
Put down your pen or your weapons (words, anger, walls, self-medicating habits).
Take His hand.
The healing journey isn’t easy, but He is always present.
And I can’t wait to see who become who He made you to be.
My name is Melissa Fairchild. While I write for Being Remade, you can also find me at Hope Rewritten—where we believe that broken doesn’t mean beyond repair.
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